Tony Russell

  • How to know You have Fallen for A Narcissist

    It is always interesting (as a former therapist and pastor) to be in therapy. It truly is proof that we can often help others, and not see our own issues. My therapist Tonia will often say something and I have a BFO! Yes, a BFO! It is what I call the blinding flash of the…

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  • To Divorce or Not to Divorce: That is the question.

    People often ask my views on divorce. Especially Christian folks! The big question they have is, “Do you think it is okay to get a divorce” or “What do you believe God thinks about divorce?” Never mind that I am divorced…here is something I must say, they are missing the real question. In most cases…

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  • Dating Mistakes: Don’t Lose Yourself

    Before you get started reading this life changing blog let me ask you one very important question. When you are with the person you are dating do you behave the same as you would if you are with friends? And would your friends say that your behavior changes when you are around the new boo?…

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  • Why Do People Follow Christianity?

    The seminary professor walked into the classroom with what we lovingly referred to as a, “boom box.” It was a very large radio that played music with these weird things called cassettes and CDs. He cranked up the volume, and then stood on the table while playing “I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking for”…

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  • The Tuesday Before The Cross

    As Jesus woke up on Tuesday, we can’t help but wonder if the first person on his mind was Judas Iscariot? There are many indicators that Tuesday (of what we know as Holy Week) was the day that Judas made his deal to turn Jesus over to the religious leaders. Picture that meeting! Judas had…

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  • The Monday Before The Cross

    Lets go back around 2,000 years, and picture what that Monday morning before Good Friday might have been like for Jesus. Let’s do our best to take a peak into what may have been on his heart and mind. In just 4 days, the light of the world will briefly be cast into darkness. Jesus…

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  • The F Word May Be Your Biggest Problem

    I was sitting just close enough to the jetty in Westport, Washington so that a large wave would occasionally crash like thunder, and then provide a slight cool mist to fall down over me. It’s an incredible experience that is only understood by those of us who love the Pacific Northwest. You know, one of…

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  • The Addiction to Dating

    I was sitting across from an attractive lady enjoying a cup of coffee when she admitted she had been dating 3 or 4 times a week for quite sometime. She was using one of the many dating apps that are available, and let me know she had even gone on multiple dates in one day.…

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  • My Letter from An Atheist

    I heard a “ding ding” come from my iPad, which meant someone commented on one of my blogs. It was like a bell to a Pavlovian dog as I quickly went to read it! In case you haven’t noticed I have one very big “issue” and that is my desire to make people like me…A…

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  • When You Feel that Death is A Better Option

    I had always been highly anxious on airplanes, and especially upon takeoff. However, on this day I was unusually calm. We were taxing down the runaway, and I had zero anxiety. And then there was the pause, I pictured the pilots fist bumping each other before getting one of their dopamine rushes for the day.…

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